Ok here's my story... I am 21, never had a bf be4 which obviously means never had s3x be4. Well I am a beautiful girl, I am friendly and sweet BUT I am very shy when it comes to boys! I mean I am kinda overprotective cause most guys want 1 thing.. and please do not deny that! I know that most guys like to have a one nite stand with girls or having a gf just to use her for that thing! I am not saying ALL but MOST of them. Anyways, the point is that there are many guys who want me but I am very shy and I can understand WHEN someone wants me just to have fun.. so I just ignore those guys! But there are some guys who want to have a serious relationship with me and they told me many times that I drive em crazy and stuff but I don't want to have a bf because I don't know how to kiss! I mean I am freaking scared! I don't want to be humiliated you know? Cause all the men respecet me cause they know exactly what kind of girl I am it's just that if my ';future'; bf makes fun of me I will be sooooooo disapointed and humiliated! And this is what I am afraid of and can't have a bf! I like this guy and he likes me too but.... I don't know! =( We barely know each other... we just say a ';hi'; and that's all. I am sure you're wondering how I know that he likes me.. well here's the answer: My mom hangs around with his mom so... ya! He told my mom that he likes me and he asked many Qs about me... you know.. how old I am, when and where I go out with my girls and stuff...
Please help me.. Tell me is it normal to act like that? If I was your girl would u make fun of me or use me??? PLEASE I want honest answers!!! Thank u!!! =))I need some advice! Guys only please!!?
Dont feel bad about being shy little girl , most real people who want what they want are all shy at first. And yes, it's very normal! It just takes time to get to know youself . So you have never had a bf or been intimate w/ someone...so what ! Not everyone starts haveing sex or getting into serious relationships in their early teens, though popular TV would have us thinking otherwise . Its true that a lot of guys these days only want that one thing, though as I'm sure you may have experienced through other friends...girls are guilty of that 'player' mentality as well. But don't judge every guy, or put them in that catagory.....some of us are really cool and do want to treat that special someone w/ respect......unfortunately some of us are as shy if not more so than you ! You say that ';you don't know how to kiss!';......got to start somewhere. Sure, kissing someone is very intimate,and yes really scary the first time, but it's also a very enjoyable experience. You don't have to be an expert right out of the box.....just enjoy yourself....everyone gets better w/ practice! You have to be willing to put yourself out there sometime. Saddly....you may come accross that paticular ****** that criticizes your ability...so what ! Take it w/ a grain of salt....life is full of constant criticizem....its how you deal w/ it that reflects on your character. Never let anyone get away w/ belittleing you ! No one deserves that.
You mentioned this guy you like but hardly know....put yourself out there. Until you risk yourself, or your emotions, you will never truly know yourself. Now I'm not saying go up to him and act the part of a Porn star.....just be yourself. Wow, ..I think we've all heard that atleast 4 times in our life huh !?! Anyway,... just talk to him like you would one of you're friends....You already know he ';likes'; you, so..really....there isn't all that much preasure, or risk of rejection...know what I mean ? Don't be scared to live your life ! Just take everything slow....there's really no hurry to be like everyone else, or do what they do.....is there ? Go as far as you are comfortable going, but don't jump into anything you may regret later. I had a lot of female friends growing up that went too far before they we're ready....most of them regret it !
If this guy is cool, and really like who he is...then approach him first....you never know....he may be as shy as you. Plus, ...if he's like me....he'll be totally impressed ! And if your're lucky....he might just be that first great guy that you always remember fondly ! Be safe little girl......I wish you luck !I need some advice! Guys only please!!?
It is normal, if you never kissed before, you wonder if you are going to do it right, truth is, its really simple, a french kiss is basically massaging the other person's tongue with your own. If you were my girl, i wouldnt make fun of you becuase i understand see.
Relax. If you're straight foward with the guy he won't care that you've never kissed or done anything. Yes some guys only want one thing but don't think all guys are the same. Quit worrying so much and just go out and have some fun.
Wow! Heading for 50 year old virgin here. Loosen up. Just cause its a guy dont mean he only wants one thing. Rejecting them all is no way to handle things.
wow, its really surprising that youve never had a bf before. shocking.
i would think guys would be lining up to date a neurotic paranoid girl.
I guess it's no big deal. Just calm down and meet him better :). If you like each other don't hesitate and try to be with him more time!
Stop mind f*cking yourself and just go for it.
Honestly, I would never make fun of any girl if she was a bad kisser and frankly, I wouldn't care. If this guy truly wants to date you, neither will he. Girls like you are attractive because they have haven't been corrupted by other guys or haven't been with 10 friends of the guy that likes you. I wish I could find someone like that. Usually, I can find someone in as little as two phone calls that has hooked up with or knows someone who has hooked up with the girl I am talking to at that time. Keep the faith, everything will work out when the time is right.
It sounds like your mom has a good relationship with his mom. Confide in your own mom and explain your fears. Perhaps she could share some of this info with his mom. When he hears from his mom that you like him but feel awkward for never having kissed a boy before, he will think it is sweet and I'm sure he will treat you with respect. Believe me on this.
All first kisses will be a little bit awkward but trust me, you'll know how to kiss when the time comes, and the guy is supposed to be the one who initiates it so just follow his lead, that's what my gf does even though she's got more experience then me, just start off with a peck and then go from there if you feel the need to. Oh, and if any guy makes fun of you for it, then he's OBVIOUSLY a dick and not deserving of you, so just dump his ***. I wish you all the best.
awww i think your kinder cute :) sorry hehe.
on a serious note. I am alot younger than you but i went through the same kind of thing with my current GF she was really scared and stuff about relationships , kissing, sex , etc etc. but she did talk to me about her concerns when we got together and my being a understanding let her go at her own pace and let her discover and enjoy them things in her own time.
this guy that likes you clearly seems like a nice person asking questions not jumping in saying ';fancy a shag';. get to know this guy and just do what you feel is natural. if your beautiful and caring he will be just a nervous to impress you dont forget that. so you can both experience new things and talk about it and gain more experience and always remeber to laugh when things dont go so well. it will make it easier to relax when doing private stuff. this guy seems nice and wont make fun of you. he will be more scared than you.
GOOD LUCK!
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