I need some advice! guys and girls!?

October of last year i met this guy, named Clay. We started dating, and going out and doing stuff and one day in February, Clay decides that we need a break. We stop talking for about a month and all of a sudden in April he starts talking to me, we go out and do stuff, and what not. Well the end of may we break things off again, and we don't talk to each other for about another month. July rolls around and we get back together for a little while, or atleast until school starts back and we go our seperate ways once again. Clay and i just recently started talking again and hanging out. We're doing great, i love him with my whole heart.





He is a really cynical guy. He hardly shows emotion at all. Thats just how he is. Even when i had first met him, he was like that. But it bothers me sometimes. He loves me, its obvious. But sometimes i just wish he would show it.





He shows it sometimes, like i'll ask ';What do you want to do this weekend?'; and he will say something like ';I just want to be with you, i don't care what we're doing..';





I don't want to talk to him about ';showing emotion'; or anything because it just isn't the right conversation for our time situation. (if that makes since.)





I guess my question is...





Should i play harder to get, to make him want me more and force him to tell me things? Or should i just leave it alone and let him tell me how he feels...when he does, if ever?





Would playing hard to get draw him closer to me? Or make him think i don't want to be with him (like other times) and break things off for good?





I want to be with him, I just need help figuring this out.








(if i should play hard to get, can you give me some tips on how to... i don't want to take it overboard.)





Thank you so much! =)


I need some advice! guys and girls!?
dont play hard to get--trust me when i say its not the way to go. But definitely talk to him more...dont just do ';stuff';...sit down have dinner and talk. It feels great just to talk to him or lay in his arms and talk to him. He'll show emotion eventually and i'm sure of it...because the love of my life was the same way. Breaking guys is one of the hardest things you'll ever do,but when you do it'll be worth it. Playing hard to get sometimes hurts the guy more than draws him closer because maybe he doesnt have the confidence to keep going after you....get my point?





Sooo talk it out! it'll be the best you can do.I need some advice! guys and girls!?
verbally he might not show it, but how he cares for you is maybe his own way saying he loves you.


love him as the way he is. dont bother changing him.


If it bugs you so much, talk to him calmly, let him know it upsets you and he will improvise because he loves you.
Don't let his cynical life ruin yours. There are so many caring, open people out there that would love to spend time and feelings with you. I use to be that guy and then wondered why I was always loosing the girl. If you can't be open with the one your with then whats the point? Move on and be happy!
i have been in situations like this and as long as you know the person loves you. Maybe you should ask him why he doesnt show emotion but if thats just the way he is, thats ok. just keep talking to him and tell him you love him.
honestly, don't try to change him. if that's how his personality is, he shouldn't have to change it to please someone else. also, just be yourself. you don't need to play hard to get...he might get the opposite message if you do
a man cannot resist a woman who exudes genuine confidence and love for others and herself.


but before he can appreciate you, you must love you first and most sweetie. god bless.
you need to decide if you want something serious. Is the one again off again thing ok for you? If he never opens up and shows emotions will you be ok with that for the rest of your life. make sure you dont sacrifice your happiness.


best of luck
I don't know that whole situation but it kind of sounds like he's using you. If he loved you as much as you loved him, he wouldn't NEED breaks from you. Couples face things, good and bad, together.
personally i would say something


i think honesty is the most important thing in a relationship and playing games just confuses everyone.


i would just ask him
He loves you ? Its Obvious ?





Take off the beer goggles dear.


Leaving, coming back, leaving again, wanting to get back.....


That ain't love!
leave him, he will never want to be with you forever
i think that if you like him alot and want to stay with him you should just let things be and let him tell you about how he feels when he wants, but i dont know, ive never been in a realtionship and prob never will be so im not sure that you want to take my advice, but what the hey
If he is as cynical as you say he is, he will probably just shrug his shoulders and walk away if you suddenly become unavailable or hard to get. It's hard to give you advice since you don't even know a lot about this guy. That doesn't mean he isn't a great catch, but you'll spend a lifetime trying to figure out what he wants since he doesn't seem willing or able to tell you.





Most guys have a hard time talking about their emotions and Clay seems to have a harder time than most. Don't nag but ask him in a way that he can communicate what he feels but doesn't have to go into detail. Yes or no. Would you be angry if I went out with my friends tonight instead of you? Do you feel like this relationship might go somewhere? Do you want to be exclusive? Do you miss me when we are apart? Do you see other people when we are apart? Do you want me to see other people when we are apart?





Keep it simple and hope for the best.
eff.. dont play hard to get... that will make him think that you are not intrested in him any more.


just ifr you love him that much and he feels the same way, then just like start making out in public.


if that isn't good enough for you then just talk to him. im sure he will understand and everything will be fine





good luck
that kind of on %26amp; off relationship doesn't exactly read as ';in love'; to me. Plus just saying he wants to be with isn't love either. This all seems like he may not really love you at all but you're his girl.... when he feels like it. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think this isn't the real deal at all and you ask him what he feels about you and look in his eyes as he says it. If you still can believe it then, maybe it'll work out this time.