Please give advice, guys should i break up with my bf? HELP?

both 20 yr-old..





so my bf and i are practically perfect together, we really feel that we could spend the rest of our lives together, etcetc everything. we've even talked about post marriage family life and we make random plans too... i love this guy and i know he truly cares about me.





and then i'm having doubts right now. why? let me explain, so we've never gone all the way but we've done everything else. and then i started randomly spotting/bleeding and so i freaked out. all of a sudden i felt so scared of being pregnant, even though the chances are quite small. but i brought it up, that i was worried and he all of a sudden got depressed and pulled away distantly. i understand he might be shocked and scared like i am, but i feel so sad and lost that he's not really here for me like he should be.





i'm just thinking, maybe he'll disappear in the future when things come up like he's doing now. and he's only around when things are good and fun. so maybe i should call a break and cool doPlease give advice, guys should i break up with my bf? HELP?
Well, the short answer is, I wouldn't worry about that. I had that exact experience one time, but I was smarter than him - I felt just like he did, but I didn't act on that. I said that would be great, we were going to get married anyway, and we'd just have a baby and a grand old time. You could just see the tension go out of my girlfriend. She started her period then in about 5 minutes. It was funny when it was over.





If you ever do get married and have a family, he'll have a little more time to get used to it than that. Seriously, you can't expect a guy not to feel shock.





I just read the other answers, typed while I was typing - apparently I'm the only person that could understand your question! Thanks for posting that, it brought back a great old memory.Please give advice, guys should i break up with my bf? HELP?
,I wouldn't worry about it to much. Just tell him how you feel. My husband is really bad about when a stressful situation arises he acts really odd. Basically like a depressed a$$ bag.
isn't that too soon to decide? i mean he was scared as same as u. it really doesn't show that he'll leave u when u'll need him. i think u should take time and think it over. see what happens in future. if he's not right for u then u'll get sign of this.
I 2nd what Clint said...if you dont have sex with him then why did you bring it up..the guy is probably running scared. I know I would have been.
Hes only 20.... He probably loves you he just cant comprehend being a father just yet...





I wouldnt be worried about this at all... hes just young... just use protection until your both ready for parenthood...





20 is very very young.... I'd be scared to
How could you possibly be pregnant if you have not gone all the way? Did you pay attention in Health class in school? You probably scared they guy away.
I dont get it. You said you have never gone all the way so how can you be pregnant? Am I the only one who is reading that she hasnt has sex???????? If I was the guy I would be worried too! no sex makes a girl prego?





''so we've never gone all the way but we've done everything else.''





Hello people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wouldnt you be worried if a girl got pregnant and you never did it with her??? Something shady is going on LOL. I think her cherry popped from foreplay or something.
Sounds like he's not really mature. Talking about the future and actually being prepared for it is different. Sounds like you're good together. Stay with him but don't have high expectations. He's not ready for that.
You have every right to be scared about pregnancy. That is a HUGE change in your life. Although you are almost certainly not pregnant now, what happens if you get pregnant? You need to make sure you are on the same page with him on that topic. It's one thing to make post marriage family plans and quite another to actually be confronted with that possibility as a 20 year old (male or female). Have a talk with him and if you and he are not ready to take on the responsibility of parenthood, save the sex until you are. It's entirely possible that 3 years from now he would welcome that change and make an excellent parent.
To all yall saying that just because they didnt have intercourse, she cant be pregnant~~~~





She said they did everything but go all the way, which could me that he as been down in that area with his penis and just not have inserted it, which means pre-*** could have gotten inside her~even if there was no intercourse..





We dont know, but i'm sure at 20 yrs old, that must be the case. Im sure she knows that immaculate conception is rare these days~lol.





As far as to your question, i think he just got scared that the possibility that things could be falling into place, out of the order yall had planned. Yall both have talked and decided of how yall want things to go, and at the sound that you may be pregnant now, has yall both a lil scared. It is normal. He may be thinking the same about you. Just give him time and in the mean time, take a pregnancy test, just to be on the safe side. I'm sure, if he does love you the way he says, regardless of the results, he'll come around. But from now on, just be extra careful. Im sure this lil scare has definitely set yalls priorities straight.
Don't judge a book by its cover..There is more to life than talks.. You should have been doubly sure of this guy before getting physical with him.. 20yrs is too early for all this.. especially an abortion .. this can affect your reproductive system.. I'm not trying to scare you but its true...


Well abou the guy .. before exploding the bomb of your pregnancy should have checked it .. If you are so sure that there is nothing like it then why are you hasseled..


See at the age of 20 guys are still kids they are not mature enough to handle resposibilities.. especially something like fatherhood.. Its better that you get yourself checked by a doctor .. and if you are not pregnent then get in touch with this %26amp; talk it out .. Explain him your worries.. If the two of are a';Perfect Couple'; then I'm sure he will understand you %26amp; things will improve. And even if you are pregnant talk to him %26amp; see what he says.. Whether or not he's willing for this big a responsibility??? He might even ask you to terminate your pregnancy .. If so .. then just dump this guy.. He's not worth it .. Get your preganancy terminated well within time %26amp; move on in your life .. But just remember in your next relationship do not commit such a mistake..


All the best ..
Honey, I think he just needs some time. But if you two are really the perfect match for each-other, then I promise you, he will come around. Trust me, i've been there, before. Everything will work out, you'll see.





Just go to him and really pour your heart out to him, and tell him all your feelings about what's going on.





Sometimes my husband goes through stages like that, too. But we love each-other, and it always pans out in the end.





Stay strong, sweetie. Relationships require time. I think that's all you need to do, really. Just give him some space, and he'll come around.
could be that he woke up to the reality that you could get pregnant alot sooner than the two of you are planning. Which means committment. Both of you need to do more planning of what you want and are willing to pay
At 20 I feel both of you are equally inexperience. The rule of thump in relationship is to complement each other. What i mean is, instead of assuming why he distant away, i feel u should approach him and ask for clarification. Never know what is going on in his mind. If you can help him out when he feels lost than I will say you are being responsible. If all the talks did not help both of you to reconcile, than you could safely take it that your assumption is true
So... you're what, 15 years old? Love is nothing at you're age. You cannot possibly be ready for that level of commitment, so don't worry about it. Just have fun (without sex if possible) and live for the moment.
just use protection
hmm let's see you've never gone all the way implies you've never had sex (with him), and you think you're pregnant. Well im no genius, but i think your boyfriend might think you cheated on him.
maybe his not prepared yet that why he's giving a distance.sometimes people wont realise or think what they should do until they are in the present situation,,until they are not experiencing it yet...its easy to say and to do,, but when you're in the real situation still you cant figure out whats the best thing to do and you get confuse.try to understand him, even you, yourself panic of what happened...
If you brought it up that you thought you were pregnant, and you haven't gone all the way, he might be worried that it was someone else's.


If you are really worried, get a pregnancy test, but otherwise, it sounds like that's what he's worried about.


Also, you might go see a doctor if you're worried. It's probably nothing, but a professional opinion telling you that will probably calm everyone down.
No, he's only 20. I've known older guys to freak out even more. A baby is a serious thing, and he didn't dump you or anything. If that's the only thing bothering you about him, I would consider myself blessed. Remember, a good man is hard to find. Never ever tell a man or anybody you may be pregnant, until you know for sure.
Give him time. If you are pregnant I'm sure he'll come around and if not then great for you both. You may want to think about birth control. Since you went this far go ahead and give it all to him.
You need to have a talk with him about how you are feeling. Tell him that, the way he acted made you feel insecure about how strong the relationship is. Get a definite answer from him about why he acted that way. If you are going to have sex prior to marriage, make sure that you use protection. I would be afraid of getting pg for this guy until you are married.