Need advice... guys or girls :)?

Last night I got into an argument with my boyfriend of a year and a half. We're very, very close. I always forgive and forget little things, but really, there's only so many times you can do so. He said something to me that really hurt me and without question I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore. Well, for the past few weeks I've been planning to cook him dinner onV-day. I went shopping yesterday thinking everything was perfect, but we got in a fight at night and he said something i didnt appreciate. My brother and his girlfriend are supposed to join us too for the dinner and I don't want to ruin it! I told my brother i dont want my boyfriend to come because we're arguing but didnt tell him for what. my brother said he better come and he'd talk to him. But I don't want to forgive my boyfriend for what he said. What should I do?Need advice... guys or girls :)?
You're right that there are some things you should not forgive. If something is said out of contempt, then it is not forgivable. Contempt is when you say something to purposely hurt someone you care for. There is no good reason too do this. You can say I was drunk or it was an accident, but those aren't good reasons. Many things are said in the heat of an argument, but contemptuous things are just wrong and shouldn't be forgiven. If you feel it was, then you're right.





There will always be fights in a relationship. I know I will get flamed by new couples for saying this. I know some couple will say we have never faught and you must have just had crappy relationships but we all know fights happen. What's important isn't how much you fight, it's that you learn to fight fairly. Sometimes you need to stand up for what you believe in. Sometimes you need to let loose of aggression in a healthy mannor. Sometimes the other person is just wrong or has harmed you in some way. So fights happen. You should learn to fight fairly though.





If you are in a relationship where no one is fighting fairly, then you need to get out of that relationship. If you think you can salvage it and learn to fight fairly, then be prepared for a challenge. It won't be easy.





Valentine's Day is no excuse for making-up. If you are still mad and need time to think, and cool down or to move on, then you should take the time. Do not force yourself and do not lie to yourself. I've heard some people say we have to pretend for others, what does that really accomplish. It just delays things. There are some times when ignoring helps, but this doesn't sounds like the right time.





You can't forgive if you don't want to forgive. It's your choice, not your brothers.





Best of luck. :-)Need advice... guys or girls :)?
I think you either need to break up with your boyfriend or be open to forgiving him... if you don't do one of those, then your argument won't really have a chance of ending.
A year and a half? Did he really mean what he said and was it really all that bad? I mean things guys usually say the first thing that pops into our heads. Did he apologize? Was it on lines of cheating and what not? Does he want someone else? I mean come on girl....if he is sorry....(really truly sorry) Then forgive him the poor man. If it was on the line of cheating and break of trust fudge it. A year and a half relationship should be cherished.
if he's done this a lot... i'd say break it off... i know i probably wouldn't... but it's easier to see the smart thing to do when it's happening to somebody else.
i'd cancel the dinner rather than being eating with someone you are mad at the moment.
wat did he say!
Life is too short. Learn to overcome hurtful words. Tell him your thoughts, if he is for you, he will not say these things. Sometimes, there are people out there that need to hear that what they said or did was wrong. Some are not so smart when it comes to relationships.


Call a truce for the nite, have dinner and a blast with your company. Maybe you will learn why he says what he says. Maybe you both can learn by pretending to be at peace with all words.
Tell your brother to come and hitt him around a bit if you want, if you dont then tell your brother to come over and to your boy friend to still come, once he is their then have your brother talk to him if, your bf says whats wrong and you 2 dont make up then have your brother punch in the face
Don't forgive him.... train him!


Men are hard to train because they are like dogs, they speak another language. If he's a bad doggy and shits all over your world you have to let him know he did wrong. That means punish him by not speaking with him, who cares if he doesn't come over on V-day. Do you really want to be with him the rest of your life? If he did or said something bad don't give him a treat by cooking for him. Thats bad training! Don't let him give you puppy eyes. Sometimes it will hurt you but it must be done. Train him now and you will be happy for the rest of your life. Good luck.
It's your dinner. Stand by your decision
If he hurt your feelings and you can't forgive him then break up with him. Tell your brother and his girl to do something by themselves.
nothing you dumped him, leave it as that
Well first go for some councling and if he still won't change leave him
It really depends on what your boyfriend said. If it is something that you can't get over, then don't. If he is someone that you do not want to be with then don't!! It sounds like you already made up your mind.





Let your brother and his girlfriend enjoy their night, they will understand!
call off the dinner for 4 %26amp; move on. just because it's valentines day doesn't mean that he gets a free dinner. actually u should invite someone else over for dinner so your brother %26amp; his girl can still carry on with the plan but uninvite your ex %26amp; invite someone else. good luck
you shouldn't get back with your boyfriend just because your brother wants you to
what did he say?
I say cancel the dinner and and work on your issues! If you don't and continue with your plans... whatever issue you and your boyfriend are having trouble with will get overlooked and never resolved... you'll only end up fighting over it again in the future and just dealing with this all over again. Why post-pone something you can take care of today!





I'm speaking from personal experience, however, I don't know exactly what your fight was about, so I can't say for sure!





Good Luck %26amp; Stay Strong!
Call off the V-Day Dinner and move on with your life.
it deends on whether you think the guy is worth it. do you love him? do you see any kind of future with him? if he's being...an ****** than forget it!
If it's over, it's over. Why should he get dinner for what he said, especially if it was bad enough for you to break up with him and not want him back?? Don't go back to him if you don't want to for his sake, or your brothers sake. It's your decision.
it might help to share what your boyfriend said that is so unforgivable. Cuz you can either forget what he said and move on or move on without him.
Hm.... this is tough. Only you know how you feel sweetie, just try your best to talk it out with him. Remember, to ere is human to forgive is divine. Pray for guidance, and I hope everything works out for the best. G'luck hun!
if you don't wanna make up with him yet then tell your brother your really sorry and that you don't want to go. but think about it. do you really wanna be by yourself on Vday? think about making up with him before then.
dnt let him come bc if u do then he'll think ur the one tht loves him more, when he is the one that is suppose to live without you. .. do u get me
well i dont know what the fight was about so i cant really help.





but i would forgive him;


dont be stuburn !





:)