GIRLS! I feel REALLY stupid and I NEED ADVICE?! GUYS HELP TOO?!?

There's this guy (Josh) I’ve known for 2 years. I wanted to invite him to this ball I had to go to, but the timing just never has been right. 2 weeks ago I told him I needed to talk to him-- he left. He called the next day--my phone was off.He didn’t leave a msg.


Last Saturday I went to his grad party. He said, “I called you.” “You didn’t leave a msg.I figured you had a wrong #.” I spent HOURS making a cd for him (I recorded him playing HIS music)and I put it in his truck.The next day at church,“did you listen to the cd?” “Yeah, it’s pretty good.”


So Wed night, I texted him “I still need to talk to you, and time is running out.” HE DIDN’T CALL UNTIL FRIDAY (which also was his 18th bday).I sang happy bday real quick and then…He was just…Silent. The most awkward silences I’ve EVER had on the phone with him.He said he got my txt but “just forgot” until then. I invited him, he said he had to work till the afternoon, and that was his only time off. So, “no. I won’t go. Maybe next time.” I was kinda stunned and hurt/pissed at myself all at the same time. I said, “Ya know Josh, there’s not gonna be a next time.Have a good nite, see ya around.” “You have a good night too.”


I’m just so stupid! He called me mi amor last summer, and still drives around with the smiley face I drew in glass chalk on his precious truck 3 MONTHS AGO! Last time on the phone he said we should hang out sometime. I just feel like an idiot for believing in him! I figure, if he did like me, even if dancing wasn’t his gig, he would go, for me. GIRLS! GOT ANY ADVICE FOR ME? I HAVE TO SEE HIM EVERY DAY THIS WEEK AT A KIDS ACTIVITY WE’RE VOLUNTEERING AT.GIRLS! I feel REALLY stupid and I NEED ADVICE?! GUYS HELP TOO?!?
no worries. if he didn't like you, even as a friend, he never would have attempted to call, even if it was 2 days later than the text. it's not his fault that he has to work, he can't make his schedule unfortunately. just because he can't go doesn't mean he wouldn't like to. it doesn't sound like he's really interested in you as a girlfriend or anything though, no offense. he sounds like a good friend though.








put up with him like you always have. rejections are a part of life, you just have to get used to it and move on. try to not let it bother you.GIRLS! I feel REALLY stupid and I NEED ADVICE?! GUYS HELP TOO?!?
He's probably shy?Maybe he dosen't really know how to go about things with you. But you shoud go to that ball with someone else, and don't let him stop you. Some guys are complete morons sometimes, and don't think you did anything wrong, because you didn't.
sry i have no reply to that. you really need to cut down on the info you had a lot of pointles stuff in there that didn't really matter with the question.


and also, what are you asking?


do you like him?


.....what??
Just text him and invite him. dont worry about it. are you freeking out? are you un rlaxed about the situation? these ar the questions u should put in your paragraphs.
Your trying too hard. Girls don't try for guys, guys try for girls. Most ah the time. -______-. You really are stoopeed . He's a fhag .
hey things happen some times not the way we want.... um you can either ignore him or still be friends and act as if it doesnt phase you! i say act as if it doesnt phase you!
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Wow i got lost ma,its too long...


Ask him or text him this ';What do you think of me?';





After he replies ask him this ';How do you feel about me?';





Good luck i hope this help!
i think you shoudl simplify it cuz its really confusing
too long and confusing
Watch the movie He's Just Not That Into You. :/
I see what the situation is. Just be cool, and treat him very nicely.
simply avoid him its good for you plus it would make him wonder lol thats all i got
yeah...i dont think he likes u LIKE THAT
Maybe he is shy...


you never know with guys anymore..they hide their feelings
what???
oh my god! that ';Josh'; kid sounds like a total bad word! sweetie, you dont need that, my advice is, find a guy who doesnt think of you as a friend, cuz thats what it kinda sounds like. and who knows? maybe he'll ask you to go somewhere with him, and you'll say ';no, i dont feel like it maybe next time :))'; and he'll feel the way you felt, i'd get over him, cuz it sounds like you dot need him.
Wait... What?





Edit:: ohhhhh ok. Um just ignore him when you can and then be friendly and polite and not rude. Then if he strikes up a conversation just be nice and go along with it. It really could just be that you two had bad schedule timing and got mad at each other. He'll most likely come around, just be nice but passive:)
I'm a guy and according to your question, he seems like a jerk... try not to look at him or talk to him much at the kids activity thing..... if he says something to you, try to say something cocky back.... or ignore him...


I really don't know... but good luck
god, that sucks. guys can be so insensitive, ecspecially when we need them the most. honestly, i would just talk to him. it really seems like he is leading you on. so i would just tell him how you really feel, and that it seems he has mutual feelings. and just say if you don't, i don't want this to ruin the friendship that we've had.





but i would also tell him that it really hurt your feelings that he didn't go to this dance thing with you. and that he couldn't respond to your text until three days later.





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Sounds to me like he is taking you for granted. You are always there for him when he needs you.....but if the opposite can't be said, you need to do some mega reevaluation. Take a step back. Don't call or text. When you see him, smile and be nice, because afterall he is a friend, but do not go out of your way to do things for him like you've been doing. Be your sweet happy self at this weeklong camp thingie, and show him exactly what he is missing out on.





But, you sound like a very nice person who doesn't deserve somebody who is treating you like crap. I think it might be time for you to move on. Good luck!
be cool, don't let him know that you were upset and act like you did before he said no. act like it never happened because if he does like you and he thinks you are mad then he might stay away but if you keep talking with him then he will keep liking you. and did you ever think he may have had other plans and did not want to leave you out so he just couldn't tell you. maybe he had family things to do. just cuz you got rejected doesn't always mean he is being mean and that he is trying to avoid you. and did you ever think that he is ';volunteering'; because you are? maybe he wants to like you and just doesn't know how. one thing you MUST do is always think the positive and if it turns out negative then screw him, cuz you don't need him!
Dude, he called you MY LOVE!!!!!!! he digs you, or he digged you, and maybe all your ';we need to talk'; scarred him away. Maybe you just need to be his friend and see if he says something. I know it won't be fun, but it's all you can do to get your relationship back on track. I think he has feelings for you, I just don't think he is ready to show you how he feels. Let him be, and if it's meant to be, he won't let you go.





Don't bring it up, just be your own fun self. Be the friend to him that you used to be. If you regain that solid friendship, ditch the ';We need to talk'; and talk. Just tell him.





Hope this Helps!!
Don't feel like an idiot and quit second guessing everything you said, he said and on and on. If he really liked you, you would have been able to tell and not be wondering, you would know. As far as the smiley face, maybe him not washing it off is only a matter of him being lazy and just not even thinking anything about it. Where on the other hand, you take it as a romantic gesture that he thinks of it like,'; ohhh, it was so sweet of her, I want to leave it to look at and think of her';. That is how girls think, not guys. They don't think like that. So, I wouldn't put any importance on that. If he had wanted to get back in touch with you all those times , believe me...he would have. As far as seeing him every day while volunteering, no big deal, just go and do it and don't think anything about him, forget him as far as being anyone special. Ask someone else to the ball, if it's not too late. Don't even mention it to him again or act like you care. Don't feel bad, dumb or anything like that, it wasn't anything you did. It was what he didn't do. At least you know how he is now and that's a good thing, forget him and move on.
Have you thought about simpy just asking him if he likes you or not, if you can't face doing that then get one of your friends to find out from one of his friends to see if he does or not. Maybe he does like you but he just isnt ready for a relationship yet. good luck though, i hope he does like you.
avrilfan,


Well this is a long explanation of what has been happening.





Um sounds a lot like this fella of yours if just being a plonker, or for those on the other side of the atlantic a bit nieve. Your obviously besotted by him and have fallen hard. I don't think he shares your enthusiasm.





I would guess from this fellas point of view you said we have to talk. He heard ';O no here is how do you feel talk coming'; red lights when off and the counter measure kicked in. It is possible he legitimately forgot about the text to be fair. Remember things that a person feels are important will stay on your mind.





I think this week while your around him you leave the subject. You've made it clear that you want / need from your point of view to talk but if he is not interested no matter how hard you try it is not going to change things.
The thingg you have to understandd is;;;maybee he just wantss to bee friendss;;;;and your jsut too aheadd off himm;;;;the thingg i cann tell you iss dontt showw him datt ur pressedd;;;and be friendss wiff him and see where it goes from there;;;;;he didnt reallyy playyy youuu;;;;you cann still belivee him;;;he justt needss moree timee to click wif you;;;;;
This is awful, and i been here before under different circumstances.


Only thing i can say is i don't think boys notice that they lead girls on. It's crazy. They are so complicated, even when they don't think they are. Well while you're at this volunteer thing, you need to not show that your hurt and keep your head up. If he asks how your ball went, say oh it was really good you shoulda been there. and move on. If more things happen that make you think he likes you, ask him where you stand in his life. Just a friend or more.





hope this helps :/
Wow, that sucks that he said no. jerk. heh. but maybe we shouldn't hate him just yet. you should talk to him, you obviously know what you want (him), you just need to get it. heh. talk to him, tell him you like him, if not, than just hint it at him. if he's one of those guys you know, who just likes to be a tease, than forget him. it will be tough, but you will know that you deserve better than that. hopefully he does come to his senses though. i wish you the best of luck.